So, I get asked as a career coach. What skill or trait do I need to be insanely successful? You know what it takes to become the next Oprah or Richard Branson. It’s strange since I’ve spent years working with thousands of people who are very dissatisfied with their level of success.
In their careers and when I compared them to people I’ve worked with who become extremely Successful and the people like Oprah and Richard Branson. I’ve noticed that those people possess a particular skill set, a particular trait, and it’s something that they’ve developed in themselves. It’s not something you’re born with, which is fantastic news for you since anyone can learn how to do it, and once you’ve mastered it, you’ll be able to catapult or quantum leap your success.
So, what is this big thing? Well, it’s called dropping the Stone. That’s Right, dropping the stones. What do I mean by that? Well, there is a process, as you go through in your career, called experience plus, learn equals grow. It’s something I teach all the time to our members at work daily, and that is that every time you have an experience in your career, you process it. Then, you look at it and learn from it when you know most people who stay dissatisfied and unsuccessful in their careers.
What Happens? Are they process it? They attach a motion to it, and they put this emotion and store it into what we call your career narrative. And that is the story that runs up in your head. And if you haven’t seen my video on your career and narrative of what it is and how to change it, be sure to check out the link. It’s either up here or down here, but they take those things, create them, and put them in there.
Like a rock, so the problem I have is that, while You’ve experienced it and you’ve learned something from it, you haven’t grown. Remember the equation. Experience plus learning equals growth, so you’re stuck, and it’s just like a rock.
So here’s that rock that failure that you had, but you haven’t processed it, so here it is, and then you have another thing happen to you. You don’t process what happened, and it’s another one, and you keep going, and you keep going, and you keep going, and what I find Is people that aren’t successful and are deeply dissatisfied in their career. Have a pile of these.
Imagine carrying a pail of rocks around with you 24 hours a day, seven days a week. That’s exactly what you’re up to in your thoughts! A mountain of boulders is dragging down your career. It crushes your confidence, and it holds you back from achieving things. I mean, think about that. How fast could you go in your career if you had all that extra weight to carry around? So what am I getting it here? Will those successful people process the rocks they grow, and the sign you’ve grown and known that you can throw the stone away is when you no longer attach any heavy emotion to an experience.
So these successful people that you say gee they’ve caught every break there, so lucky they’ve had just as many challenges in their career, probably more because they’ve been so much more aggressive in Their career than you have. But what they’ve done is build up this incredible skill to process it and drop the rocks. So they experience it, they learn from it, but, more importantly, they grow from it.
They scrutinize everything. That has happened to them positively because if they can learn from it if it did not kill them or ruin their career, they can use it to their advantage. Now, when you get good at that, you’ll be amazed at how much lighter you feel, and when you’re lighter and free of all the negativity, all those boulders in your head that are holding you back, you’ll be amazed at how much lighter you feel.
Think of what you can do. You stay curious, creative, take risks, and move forward, and that’s the very definition of those people you aspire to be. So, if you want to know the one talent you should be working on right now to help you advance in your profession, it’s learning to Drop the Rocks because if you can do that, you can do anything.